Talking about sex is completely healthy! Discussing it with your partner should not be a taboo subject. We listen to it on the radio, we see it in films/TV shows, and see an advertisement about it on a day-to-day basis.

Without communication, you won’t know what your partner is into, and you may be holding back on letting your partner in on your likes and dislikes. I asked a few friends why they believe talking about sex can be a complex subject to discuss, and I received several different answers. Some of my friends mentioned one’s partner might find talking about sex hard depending on privacy and vulnerability: experience with sexual trauma, the comfort, awareness of sex, taught not to talk about sex, or just being fearful of discussing wants and needs. Making oneself knowledgeable on the subject can most defiantly make the subject easier to talk about with a partner. Even Salt N Pepa brought the matter to light with their 1991 song release Let’s Talk About Sex:

“Let’s talk about sex for now

To the people at home or in the crowd

It keeps coming up anyhow

Don’t decoy, avoid, or make void the topic

Cause that ain’t going to stop it

Now we talk about sex on the radio and video shows

Many will know, anything goes

Let’s tell it like it is and how it could be

How it was, and of course, how it should be

Those who think it’s dirty have a choice.”

According to a friend, “relationships are built around several things with sex being a major component.” It is important to discuss sex with your partner because it builds understanding and communication in the bedroom. Having the ability to discuss this taboo topic allows for two people to grow together. If you can fulfill your partner’s needs, you will keep them happy and build your confidence when it comes to performing arts in the bedroom, along with keeping things pleasurable and exhilarating. Open communication can only help to build things up with the right person.