Before you all get into this story I have recently gone through writers block!! Last week’s guest blogger Alyssa Frison encouraged me to share this story. I written this blog that you are about to read a few years ago and it has sat in my drafting area of word-press every since just like a few other stories that I have not posted. Some of these stories are sensitive but I figured this one might help someone else overcome a heart break or to love him or herself. Besides, I Journi is all about inspiring and motivating others so why not share! YIKES! Here it goes! The best way to move on after a heart break is to focus on you through SELF LOVE!
For years I went through a relationship that was on and off, it was almost like a pattern. It has been a year since my relationship ended for good and I was torn. I didn’t understand why my relationship ended and how come we kept departing each other as if it was nothing and then getting back together. It took me some time to understand and be OKAY with us not being together. I made a vow to start loving me first by doing more things I enjoy and start following my dreams more.
I started back revamping my blogs and writing more. I even attended an information session for a graduate program I am interested in. Other things I found myself doing when making me love me again was working out more. I even took myself out on dates to museums, art galleries, movies, and dinners. I found myself hanging out with my friends more as we motivated each others towards our dreams.
Putting more effort towards something you want will take you far. Remember to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful and you can handle anything that comes your way. You can even place post-its all over your bathroom mirror for motivation like Mary Jane Paul from Being Mary Jane,
However, you shouldn’t have to wait until a break up to start loving you, you should be loving you first at all times. If you are not there yet, at the point of loving you first, I hope you reach that point in your life. I had to make a promise to myself during the time of healing and searching for my inner peace, and the promise was to make sure I am in love with me before I decided to enter another relationship. The thought of getting to know someone else and starting over sounds and feels exhausting to me but I know when I am ready again the exhausting feeling will not be there.
Accepting reality when it’s time to move on is hard but being OKAY with my situation is what really helped me a long with taking care of me. If no one else is taking care of me I have to.