Searching Within You!

One night in Costa Rica my thoughts were every where as I swung back and forth in my hammock. I reflected on my day and how I wished I had a few more days at the lovely bungalow at Rancho Margot. My thoughts went from what I did that day, when will I visit the lovely Costa Rica again, my love life, my career, family, and my future. My thoughts started racing so much that I placed them on paper, and I now I want to share them with you…

Sometimes in life we tend to go searching for things or people to fill a void; however, filling our void with the wrong things or people can be toxic. One’s void will only be filled when there is an understanding of oneself, which is very important.

It’s important to search within yourself so you can understand and know YOU better. When you are able to search within yourself, you get to know your fears, your likes, dislikes, your tolerance level, strengths, weaknesses, desires and a lot more.

Using myself as a example, at one point in my life I was trying to fill a void through other people, but I was finding myself bringing toxic energy into my life. Therefore, I started focusing on me and searching within myself to figure out what really drives me. I started stepping outside of my comfort zone in order to find what I was missing. At one point, I thought I needed love and support from a lover, but the true desire was more of self- love and respect for myself.

Being able to find exactly what is missing can come from doing more things one enjoys or aiming towards one’s goals. When I personally started searching within myself and doing more things that dealt with traveling, exercise, writing, teaching, and helping others develop in areas he or she desires, I started to fill my glass. You know, the glass people always try to fill so they can have a glass to pour from. You know like the quote, “you can’t pour from an empty glass.” I do believe everything takes time. When it comes to searching within and understanding one self, it takes as much patience as it would when you’re trying to accomplish a goal or getting to know someone new.

Having patience requires anyone to continue to learn and understand themselves and the things around them. Searching within will not just give a better understanding of self, but it will drive the self-love that’s WITHIN!

 

2018 Realization!

2019 is here and running! Meanwhile, I’m still reflecting on last year! 2018 was a year of realization for me. Life is strange and it’s truly a journey but every journey prepares you for whatever is coming next. Throughout the year I had aw-ha moments which made me realize things such as self determination, goal execution, friendships, money, and the list can go on.

I always knew I was a strong and highly educated black woman. However, one day I was dancing in my living room, by myself, to Grown Woman by Beyonce’ when I realized I’m A STRONG, HIGHLY EDUCATED and AMBITIOUS BLACK WOMAN Continue reading “2018 Realization!”

The Importance of Travel and Mental Health by Tabitha James

Let’s face it, life is demanding – work, family, bills, organizational commitments, social life (ha) – we spend a lot of time doing “the things”. Our personal wellness and mental health often fall victim to neglect as we focus on getting “the things” done and maintaining the moving parts of life. For many, the thought of travel is a luxury, an illusion that time away from “the things” will be relaxing and refreshing however the lingering notion that there is no time for vacation haunts the mind. Continue reading “The Importance of Travel and Mental Health by Tabitha James”

Build A Strong Support System

Regardless of what one may be going through a strong  support system of friends to help stay balanced in life is needed. When you have friends who support you and you support them things become less stressful. When you don’t have a support system you may find yourself making decisions a lone Continue reading “Build A Strong Support System”

The Last First Time by Keshia Kelly


Living a healthy lifestyle or starting a exercise routine may have come up on your list of “to do’s” this year. If so, I’m here to share some inspiration with you. The statement above resonates so loud. It’s a declaration of truth to help us stay on track. No one ever said the truth would not hurt. So, “If you’re tired of starting over, Stop giving up”.

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13 Quick Tips On Reducing Stress

  1. Eat Breakfast: Eating breakfast can give you the extra strength you need.

  2. Work out: Being physical active plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress. At least 30 minutes of exercise, three times per week, will release a great amount of stress and tension one may have.
  3. Prepare for the morning the night before: Your morning can go a lot smoother and quicker.
  4. Learn how to say No: It is OK to tell someone no and take time for you.
  5.  Say something nice to someone: Receiving a smile or compliment from someone else can put someone in a better mood.
  6. Believe in yourself: If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?
  7. Stop saying negative things to yourself: You are only the person you settle to be.
  8. Dance when no one is looking: It is a good mini workout but it also helps to release tension and stress.
  9. Do something you love: When you treat yourself to something you enjoy, you will be feeding your happiness.
  10. Keep a journal:  When you can’t speak your words, write them down.
  11. Get enough sleep: The brain cannot function correctly without sleep.
  12. Keep a “To Do” list: Writing down your tasks will allow you to strive to complete the list
  13. Just Enjoy Life!! Live Love Life!

Ways to Relax

1.      LISTEN TO MUSIC: Listening to music makes me feel better and places me in a better mood. The type of music I listen to depends on the mood I may be in. If I am stressed I normally listen to R&B or Hip Hop so I can dance around in my room. Yes, I dance around in my room when no one is looking. Besides, “Music is what feelings sound like.”

2.       EXERCISE: Hitting the track or nature trail for a run normally helps to release stress which leads me into a relax state of mind.

3.      TAKE A BUBBLE BATH: This process relaxes/soothes the muscles in my body.
4.      SPEND TIME WITH A SPECIAL FRIEND: Calling up a friend to have lunch, movie night, bowling, or whatever you and your friend decide.
5.      A DAY AT THE BEACH: It doesn’t matter if I am alone or with friends when I go to the beach because, I always enjoy it. The sound of waves and the feel of sand beneath my feet always give me a care free feeling.
6.       MASSAGE: Who does not like to receive a massage? The pressure helps to relieve pain and relax the body.